If Vedanta (Vedic Philosophy) is spoken parrot-like to others, without any attempt to put it into practice in one’s own conduct, it is not just deceiving others; but deceiving oneself, which is even worse. Therefore, you must be as you want others to be. It is not the nature of a sadhaka (spiritual aspirant) to search for faults in others and hide one’s own. If your faults are pointed out to you by anyone, do not argue and try to prove that it is right or do not bear a grudge against him for it.Reason out within yourself how you are at fault and set right your behaviour. Instead, rationalising it for your own satisfaction or wreaking vengeance on the person who pointed it out, these are certainly not the traits of a sadhaka or bhakta (devotee).(Prema Vahini, p. 69)