It is only by love that He is your dearest. Do Sadhana and there is a closeness to God, then you don’t have to tell Him you want this or that. Because you are like a little child, He will come and give you more than even what you ask for. Ego is what prevents us from getting close to God. It is that ego - ‘I’ have to do this, ‘I’ have to get all this. You must see that ‘I’ am only an instrument of the Lord. The current makes the fan rotate. The current is God, so you are only the instrument. (CWBSSB, p. 8)

In the Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, Yajnavalkya said to his wife Maitreyi, ‘Dear one, you do not love me for my sake but for your own sake. Everything you love and hold dear, you love only for the sake of your own self. Your self is the dearest of all, and it is for its sake that any one else is dear to you, these feelings you have for others are all just partial manifestations of that great love you always feel for your Self.’ And so, in the whole world, each person, whoever he may be, will love others only for his own sake, not for the sake of the other person. If he loves an object, he loves it for the self alone and not for the sake of the object. When the pure love of the Self is tainted with body consciousness, it becomes attachment and selfishness. That inevitably leads to sorrow. (DBG, p. 129)